What I've Learned from Scott

Eighteen years today... That's how long Scott and I've been married. For a woman who's been married before and never reached double digits, it's quite an accomplishment!

We eloped to Reno.  We were married in a small chapel across the street from the marriage license office. The candles were plastic, the flowers were plastic, and I wasn't too sure about the minister who rushed in at the last moment. But the ceremony accomplished the mission. We were to have been married on a paddle boat on Lake Tahoe, but found out when we arrived at the boat dock with our friends/witnesses Teri and Linda Pittman, the trip had been cancelled for lack of passengers. While Scott was beginning to wonder whether this was an sign, I was not to be deterred from the purpose of the trip.  Something about the Taurus personality. And so it was that we officially began our 18 years together. Some were rocky, some very worrisome because of Scott's health issues, but all the years have helped me become a better person than I would have been without him.

This is what I've learned from Scott:

-Don't sweat the petty things - And don't pet the sweaty things.
-Coffee is a must, first thing in the morning
-When dining out, eat like there's no tomorrow - and you'll regret it every time.
-For the men – When you see an attractive woman with a headache, no matter who she is or where you are, offer to get rid of her problem by pressing your thumb into the palm of her hand. (It happened again today while Scott was in the doctor’s office and I was in the waiting room. He swore to me she said it worked).
-It’s important to savor your food by eating slowly; one I still haven’t learned. I’m picking up dishes while he’s still masticating.
-The journey is much more exciting than the destination when you’re not sure where you’re going and really don’t care if you ever get there.

I’ve also learned:

-To appreciate the touch of his hand on my arm

-The importance of hugs

-To enjoy the moment, even without laughter

-To say “I love you” when you’re also saying, “goodbye,” even if it’s just a trip to the grocery store

-To follow my dreams because I know I’ll have Scott’s support

-The importance of forgiveness, even when you can’t forget

And probably most important of all: How to love your spouse… regardless. Happy anniversary, Honey Haverly!